Inspiration, Lifestyle, motivation

5 Super ways to start valuing yourself more!

Value is simply the importance, worth or ideals placed on something or someone. When something is valuable, it is said to be of high significance, treasured or appreciated.

What I am talking about here is, how much relevance one places on oneself. Let me re-phrase and ask rhetorically. How much do you value yourself? Invariably, your self-worth is revealed on how much value (importance, worth, love, appreciation) you place on yourself.

You see, we really can’t talk about Value without mentioning selflove. (I know…everyone’s talking about loving yourself, bla bla)  but wait until you hear me out.

How would you treat yourself if you were to be someone else whom you really love dearly?

While pondering on that, let me throw some light on what self -love means.

Selflove is the regards one has for one’s own self. (Well-being and happiness). Its beyond pedicure and cucumber masks but having the power and responsibility to your own happiness. This helps one take on practices that reflect self-worth. Self-love and self-worth (value) go hand-in-hand.

Obviously, as seen here, if you don’t develop the courage to love yourself, you’re already de-valuing who you are. I call it de-valuing your personal currency.

” I am rare, and there is value in rarity; therefore, I am valuable. -Og Mandino.

Besides this, when you operate from a good place inwardly, even those around you will benefit too.

However, some people may have had certain experiences in life, or been through certain situations that may have shifted their ideals to feeling worthless and inadequate. This forms a lasting belief in themselves that they’re undeserved and undesirable. Therefore their self-worth, self-esteem and value has become severely affected.

No, it’s not the end of the world and trust me, you’ll be just fine. You only need to start taking on practices that’ll help you make better choices and become a better person. You need to begin to know where you channel your physical, emotional, mental (etc) energies to, in such a way that it brings you joy, build positive connections, nurture creativity, helps you appreciate yourself and gives you the desire to learn and grow.

Below I share with you, 5 super ways to start valuing yourself more. How you see yourself is crucial for your well-being.

5 Super ways to start valuing yourself more.

1 Set healthy boundaries:

A lot of times, we allow ourselves to be taken advantage of. People have high expectations and demands from us yet give so little. You need to review certain relationships and set healthy boundaries. Maintain your integrity. Some people, especially the ones that drain every ounce of energy in us are meant to be on the other side of the wall. If you also need to let go of certain detrimental habits in order to become better, please do so and create space for what you truly deserve- happiness!!!

2 learn to say NO! :

This can be liberating. Sometimes, doing things you don’t want to do builds resentment. If you aren’t obligated to, learn to kindly say No and do what feels right for you. It helps build your self-esteem and allows people to value and respect you more.

Let me share a personal experience;

I once had a need for a certain milk for my kids. I had someone who sells that, (who’s kinda close to me) supply me as often as needed. But soon, I had other nutritional options since my kids didn’t really like the taste of that particular one and weren’t really consuming it. I then stopped asking for more, but this seller kept bringing me more despite the fact that I didn’t need them. More like convincing forcing me to keep buying. (Ofcourse market has to sell) and I couldn’t stand my ground to say no for the fact that we were kinda close. I would eventually buy, but feel miserable afterwards. (I mean, I no longer have need for this thing!).

One day, I summoned courage to say… you know what, it’s my money and the truth is, I have no need for this anymore. My kids aren’t consuming it and you honestly need to stop the supplies! (Oh how so liberating! I finally did it). And I was totally happy with myself that day.

So even when you’re tempted to do certain things at the expense of your well-being, honor yourself and say no sometimes.

3 Build your selfconfidence:

Tell yourself that you matter. Value exudes in the confidence that you have of yourself. It shows effortlessly. Visualize yourself as you want to be and present yourself as such. Affirm yourself. Think positive. Groom yourself. A confident person is optimistic. A confident person is willing to take risks. A confident person learns from past mistakes and grows from it.

The biggest factor in determining how far you go in life is often your selfconfidence. You have to match your goals to the level of self-confidence that you have to see it through. It requires effort, repeated practices, celebrating your small wins. Etc. Building and exuding self-confidence encourages others to take you seriously too.

Valuing yourself more.

4 Be NOT a peoplepleaser:

When I was a little child, I was told a story of how a man and his son were traveling to a place on a donkey. On their way, they met a stranger who rebuked the man because both him and his son were sitting on the donkey. He said they wanted to kill the donkey with their weight. So the man decided to climb down, so his son can ride alone as they travelled along.

Then came a second stranger who rebuked the son for letting his father walk while he rode comfortably on the donkey. He too decided to climb down and let his father ride on the donkey alone.  And then again, a third stranger came along, cursing the father for riding on the donkey while his son trekked!

You see, you can’t please everyone. While you’re busy trying to, have you thought of what you yourself truly values? That’s what matters indeed.

5 Associate yourself with the right people:

The people you associate with, have a great impact on your view of life. You need to spend time with people who inspire you to be better either through their own example or because you want to be an inspiration/model to them. Look out for people whose values resonates with yours. Those are the ones that’ll help you grow and learn to value yourself more. If you want to keep friends, then make and keep ‘proper’ friends whose ideals match with yours. Spend time with people who make you smile, laugh and feel loved.

For the fact that you exist, you’re valuable. You just need to recognize it intrinsically. Our self-value influences our perceptions and so, it’s important to value yourself more, as your perception (in the way you understand and interpret and regard things) goes a long way to form a lasting impression/ideal/belief about your life. If your old beliefs/mindset/ideals, no longer serve you, it’s time to let them go.

On valuing ourselves, we can always become more.

As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

Don’t forget, sharing is always caring.

With Love,
Jessica Hugo.


57 thoughts on “5 Super ways to start valuing yourself more!”

    1. Saying No sometimes helps you take on tasks you know you’ll be committed to and not finish haphazardly. Saying No helps your peace because it aligns to your values. It’s totally okay if you need to say No sometimes. Maybe we need to help others know what matters or is more important to us.
      Thanks for reading and leaving a comment Nina.


  1. Love this post! You have to love yourself first to achieve anything in life. Once you have it, your confidence will come. Everything you do and believe will come naturally. Always be positive and never doubt yourself.

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  2. That’s true that we need to learn how to value ourselves more. I love your tips, especially building your self-confidence and learning how to say no, as I think these two would be really important in my case.

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    1. Confidence matters a lot. If one doesn’t believe in one’s own self, it’s difficult to convince others to. Plus sometimes we need to do what feels right for us. If you’re not under any obligation, it’s okay to turn it down. It’s totally okay to decline offers that don’t match your values , it’s okay to say No.
      so yea, I think they’re important. Thanks for your comment Natalia.


  3. It is definitely a good thing to learn to say no. Thankfully that has never been a problem for me. I don’t find my value in and of myself though, I find my value in Christ. He gave His life for me. I would say that makes me pretty valuable.

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  4. So many true things in this post. There have been a couple times in my life when I had to slow things down. So I eliminated anything that wasn’t connected to my job, college or my kids. That ability to say No allowed me to focus on the most important things and I was able to regain my “sanity”

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  5. Self love yes. I drive myself too hard to the point of insanity. and yes, to say no. A lot of times, I hate disappointing people, but it becomes too much for me. Now, I no how to say no, albeit very occasionally haha

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  6. What an inspiring post to read early in the morning. Staying healthy is the number 1 factor, without a healthy body, we can go nowhere. We must be resposible of what we eat and do certain amount of exercise to keep us healthy. This is one of the key factor to care for ourselves.

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    1. Oh wow! I’m glad you did find this post at the right time and it resonated.

      You’ll be fine trust me. And yes I think you should practice this tips. It’ll definitely help.

      Thanks for leaving a comment.


  7. It is devaluing not to love yourself, I agree. I wish I could teach that to the youngsters in our school. Their self worth plummets over the smallest of things!

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    1. You actually Can teach the youngsters in your school if there’s an opportunity for it. Everyone should benefit from self-development. Self-love and self-worth should be preached on.

      Thanks for leaving a comment Rosey.


  8. We could use all this reminder, but it is difficult to maintain these. At some point in life, you can follow these points, but in certain situations, you cannot. How do we cope up with this? I do have self-confidence, but rest of the points, it just comes and go.

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  9. Unfortunately many of us go through life situations that get out confidence down and make us feel like we are not worth it. It’s important not to let the feelings convince you that because it’s very hard to come back from a belief.

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  10. If there is one decision I’m so proud of, it’s the decision of actually valuing myself more and more each day. We always forget to do this especially because we are afraid to lose relationships and other stuff but yes, start by learning to SAY NO and setting healthy boundaries!

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  11. Wow! This post really hit home for me! My biggest strength yet biggest weakness is my people pleasing. But I’m so tired! The quote posted “I’m rare and that’s valuable” hit me so deeply!! I will ponder that for the rest of the day! Thank you!!

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  12. These are great tips but my biggest problem is to say no but in this post that it is okay to say no instead of pushing yourself to do the things that you really don’t want to do.

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  13. I couldn’t agree more with your post! It is so important to know our own worth and surround ourselves with people who know their own worth as well, motivating each other in all the best ways 🙂

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  14. I’ve finally learned to say no to a lot of people too. I was just burnt out trying to please everyone and in the end I realized my true friends were those that valued me for just existing. Not for what I could do for them. Great reminders!!!

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  15. It was only when I turned 35 that I knew of self love. Since I was young I have always put my family first and never think much for myself, but I missed the real me, now I want to regain my old self back before I turn 40.

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