So recently, Social media has been agog about Nigerian author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s question to former US Senator and First Lady, Hillary Clinton on why her Twitter bio reads “wife” first, while interviewing her at a PEN world voices festival lecture in Manhattan.
According to Chimamanda, she said she was “a little bit upset” that despite her career achievements, she CHOSE to be primarily identified as a wife in her twitter bio while her husband Bill Clinton does not have “husband” in his. Adichie wanted to know if it’s her choice to want to first be identified in relation to her husband and if so, why.
Hillary in her response, said that at the end of the day, it won’t matter if you got a raise, or wrote a great book, if you’re not someone who values relationships. She also mentioned that if you’re one who wants to be identified with your career accomplishments, more power to you, If you’re one who likes to be identified with your family values, then more power to you! (2 very valid points I picked from her response).
She even said she was going to change the “wife” in her bio.
At that point, i immediately ran to twitter to check if Hillary Clinton actually changed her bio and to my utmost joy, she didn’t! (As at the time of writing this). How can someone be upset and try to dictate what someone else should have in her Social media handle? Her bio has remained exactly same way as has always been. Wife, mom, grand-mother before every other thing. I think we should respect people’s choices and family values. And having “wife” as the first identification in your bio isn’t such a horrible thing to have someone be “a little bit upset” about it. My highlights though, has been people’s outbursts and reactions.
Here are a few;
And there are lots more! Social Media literally went frenzy with many, sharing their different views.
To me, that question was sort of a way to make women feel the need to put more of their accomplishments out there than they do their marital statuses like some of their male counterparts do and if possible, not all. But when you add ” a little bit upset” to it, then it becomes disturbing. In my mind…” Is it your bio“? why should you be upset?” People can choose to celebrate what matters most to them. And it really shouldn’t be a problem to anyone. Feminism isn’t about competition of genders.
You see, people’s values are different. To some, family is everything and family comes first. Like Hillary said, it wouldn’t even matter how much accomplishments you make in life if you’re someone who doesn’t value family!
These men right here are examples that no matter where you’ve reached in life, your family matters A LOT.
To some others, family isn’t a top priority and on a scale between profession and family, there’s likely no balance. Professional career comes top with little or no relation to family.
Chimamanda is a great author, whom I admire a lot. In one of her books, ” We should all be feminists,” she widely showcased her strong beliefs in feminism which I think was great. However, not everyone values her ideologies and perceptions and being a famous figure, she might be leading some people on to her own beliefs. Almost like shoving it up their throats.
I’m beginning to think this feminism thing has different types. Or should I say version.
The Hillary Clinton’s type (ofcourse she is also a widely-known feminist).
The independent-woman, Beyoncé’s type,
And the professional-accolades type of Chimamanda and so forth!
What amazes me however, is that these proclaimed feminists are ‘happily’ married to their husbands. While making it look as if it’s an offense to identify with your family relationships publicly no matter who’s involved here. This to me, is quite somehow. No one knows for sure what happens in their homes and there’s really no need to sell a different perception to younger minds. Marriage is really a good thing and there’s no battle of the sexes.
Earlier, I wrote Four things about Chimamanda Adichie’s feminismthat isn’t sitting well with me. I ‘d honestly love you to read it and share your thoughts too.
I also talked about : Gender stereotyping.
Is Chimamanda taking her own feminism too far?
Is she the standard of feminism to which everyone should look up to?
Should women not identify with their family relationships publicly?
What are your thoughts on this brouhaha.