First, we live in the ‘flawless‘ age. Everything ‘flawless‘ trends on and offline and pop culture heavily celebrates it. If you say something or someone is flawless, it means they’re perfect, without mistake or any blemish. But doesn’t it sound too exaggerated? Because let’s face it… No one is really perfect! It’s part of human nature.
Even though we love to receive (and blush) over those…”oh you look so flawless” type of compliments, and also give them to others, it is really about coming to terms with yourself and accepting those things that make you unique.
I once read a story about Angelina Jolie, where she spoke about feeling insecure about her thick lips at a certain time, (which isn’t common with Caucasians) and wasn’t a thing in pop culture then. Today, It is being celebrated as one of her unique body traits amongst others, and she’s often cited as one of the most beautiful and sexiest women alive. Look at Kylie Jenner’s lip-kit business. What about ‘pouting‘?
Before now, every human is believed to have either black or brown eyes. (Color of pupil). And so, those who have blue or even green eyes are perceived as weird. Which made most of them feel less confident about their unique trait. Today, I hear that people go to do surgeries to change their eye color because they think it’s not only unique, but beautiful as well.
Oluchi Onweagba-Orlandi the first Nokia Mnet-face of Africa struggled with ‘being too lean and self–sham‘. It deeply affected her self-esteem so much that she always felt terrible about herself. After being encouraged to participate in the first ever Mnet face of Africa competition by a friend at 17, she won! She’s a super-star model and business mogul today.
Do you still think all great people are flawless?
There are superstar models with vitiligo and they’re beautiful, awesome and successful.
Example is Winnie Harlow, a top participant in 2014’s America’s top model. Even though she didn’t win the competition, she’s gone ahead to become a household name in the modeling world today.
Do you remember Tyron Lannister (Peter Dinklage) the award-winning star actor in Game of thrones?
He’s 4ft 5in which can count as a flaw. He is however, an established film producer and one of the top earning actors in Hollywood today.
You might be imperfect (No one’s perfect by the way), but you can choose to leverage on it because:
A WEAKNESS CAN BE A STRENGTH.
The very things you perceive as weaknesses can be strengths in disguise if you could accept them as they are. Most times, our weaknesses are the things that drive us to want to do more. By taking some steps to turn your weaknesses around and use them as an opportunity for growth! Being shy can be a negative trait. But shy people are very careful decision makers too which can count as a strength. Being too orderly can be a weakness because it can leave you moody sometimes. But orderliness has its benefits too.
YOUR FLAWS TELL YOUR STORY.
Your flaws are a part of you. Your personal story and what you’ve experienced. You cannot be who you are without them. Rather than beating yourself up about having them, you can choose to accept yourself. Your story! Which can be a valuable step towards growth. I mean, take a look at gold for example, you don’t find such valuables on the surface of the earth. You have to dig deep. Yet when found, they still need to be refined. If you want to take a shot at accepting your flaws, take an in-depth look at yourself. Dig deep. Stop looking at the surface. See yourself through an analytical lens.
Meghan Markle is an actress, she’s a divorcee, she has a ‘black’ descent. Are these ‘supposed flaws‘ able to stop her from marrying Prince Harry? You bet! That’s her story. That’s who she is! And there are those who would accept you for who you are. You can use your story to change the world and I mean it! Everyone’s got their unique story.
Everyone’s got flaws. Forget about photoshop and all. Don’t buy into the #flawless hashtag. It can be damaging. Infact it is a scam!
Everyone’s unique in their own way. Focus your energy on being positive. There’s really no point. And by doing this, you’ll be able to inspire change and celebrate who you are. Because, let me be truthful with you. Your ‘flaws‘ are really awesome and can be a great instrument for progress!
They say flaunting your flaws will likely make you more successful. I don’t know how true this statement is, but I know that your ‘faults‘ can become your success story if you utilize it well. (Remembering Toke Makinwa’s On Becoming memoir).
It is indeed your ‘flaws‘ that make you unique! And yes awesome. Now, if you don’t see this in yourself, then all I’m saying here wouldn’t even matter. That’s why I’d urge you to read THIS STORY.
I am introverted and socially awkward.
Truth is: You are a great listener.
I am a workaholic.
Truth is: You are a doer.
You’re awesome just as you are! And for that, you should be incredibly grateful.
“Embellish your flaws, they will turn into your assets”.
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