Time…time is something that only goes forward and never returns. For example, today is today. When it passes, it becomes yesterday and tomorrow becomes today. Every second, every minute, time ticks. There can only be a 10th of February 2018, ever! It can never come back. When it’s gone, it’s gone. It’s irreversible. Therefore, it is important to know how/what you use your time for, now. Overtime, you’re going to ask how time flew and where you’ve been.
Some say…” Don’t grow up, Adulting is a trap!.” I mean, almost everyone enjoyed being a child. You don’t have to bother about anything. Eat–sleep–wakeup–play–repeat. It was fun. But then, we must have to grow and become responsible for our own lives. That’s what adulting is about. we’re all work-in-progress and so, there’s always room for growth!
However, looking back, there might be certain things One would wish his or her younger self knew. They may still very well be applicable now. Things that are important and very meaningful.Ten of such things I’m going to share now.
Let’s dig in;
- Explore! Explore!! Explore!!!: You see, opportunities are hidden everywhere but sometimes we fail to see or recognize them. We sometimes always want to play safe and forget that the so-called treasures we seek don’t come to us. We go seeking for them. We explore! By exploring, we learn more about things, inquire in details, and examine systematically. When we explore, we find fields that speak our skills and interests or suggestions that we can reflect upon, as we come to a decision. Consider other possibilities. No one ever made history by playing it safe. Be bold!
- You don’t always have to listen to what others have to say: Everyone would have an opinion about how you should do this or that, too many cooks spoil the food. Listen to your guts. Listen to your intuition. It’s not about others, it’s about YOU. What YOU want/need. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes we need to get advice or opinions from people we respect. But being an adult means knowing what’s best for you and taking responsibility for your self. Your choices, your decisions, they’re your business. You don’t always have to listen to what everyone has to say. Pay attention to all the advice and criticisms, but know when to accept or ignore them!
Nothing is ever permanent: Yes! change is the only constant thing we have in life. You lose today, you gain tomorrow, or vice-versa. If/when you make mistakes, don’t whin or grin about it all day, everyday. Rather, take it as a lesson. It’s probably all part of the plan. Learning your own lessons is very important. You need your own experiences. Trust your process and move along. However, you don’t need to make the same mistakes people before you have made. So open your eyes and mind, and LEARN from them as well.
It’s no one else’s fault when you’re not happy: It means you’ve given your power away. Otherwise, it’s in your power to make yourself happy. It’s an inward thing. When you let things or people control you, they take away your happiness. And so, know when to get rid of, walk away from, put away things that produces those negative vibes that ruin your happiness.
- Don’t change who you are to suit anyone: Being yourself and being around those who value you and let you express yourself the way you are, to me, is priceless!!! You don’t have to ‘act’ a certain way to please anyone. You don’t have to ‘become’ what you’re not, in order to be accepted. You just have to embrace yourself and let others see and embrace you the same way too. It’s okay if people walk away from you because you aren’t the way they want. Those whom you’re meant for, would come for you and accept you just the way you are. And if at all you need some improvements, they will stay and help you achieve that. You’re good enough, anyone who tells you otherwise is a jerk! You can’t change anyone but yourself. Conversely, be wary of those who try to change you to suit themselves.
Pursue your dreams: Don’t give up on your talents, hobbies and abilities. People might think its unrealistic and unattainable. It probably might not make sense and seem crazy. If you love sports, music, writing, painting, etc. keep doing it. If you ask most adults who gave up on their own dreams, they’ll tell you how they wish they kept on. I remember years ago when soccer wasn’t a thing. Most people who loved and played soccer gave up on it. Today, one of the highest paying careers is soccer. So is music also, and the rest. So, your dreams are valid. You just have to keep pursuing it, until you achieve it. Patience and perseverance ultimately pays off. Sometimes so slowly.
Don’t be afraid to say ‘No‘, don’t be afraid to set boundaries, don’t be afraid to teach people how to treat you. If you’re going to shut your mouth and accept every and anything, then you’re going to loose your value and self-worth. Learn to say ‘No’ sometimes, and let others respect your values.
You don’t have to react to, or respond to every and anything. Things will get at you, people will get at you. Not every thing needs your reaction or undeserving attention. Choose your battles wisely. Take time to speak, sometimes silence is golden. Words when spoken can’t be taken back. In the moments of heightened tensions, lay back and think twice. You have the willpower and control. It’s not about the situation, it’s about your attitude and reaction towards it.
When one door closes, leave it closed. Don’t push it, don’t force it. If you’ve done all you can to keep it open and it didn’t stay open, let it be. Don’t take life too seriously.
Lastly, it’s never too late to live the life you’ve always wanted, no matter how old you are. It’s NEVER too late!
If you enjoyed reading this, tell me what you think!
If you could take yourself back in time, what would you tell your younger self? what advice would you give yourself now? Let’s discuss further in the comments!
See you soon.
Jessica Ij Hugo.