We live in the computer-age. The age of information also called the digital–age. The new -media age. Everything has gone digital. We do more emails than send physical letters, because why not? Emails are instant while letters travel for days.
We chat and send messages more than we hold physical conversations, we buy air/bus tickets and check-in online, it’s faster! We transfer money and close business transactions all on the internet. Everything is digital!
The world is technologically-improved. Social media has evolved. It is a means of connecting with people in different places no matter the time-zones. With daily status updates, showing off luxury and all that, people feel some form of security. Having many likes and comments from a picture of a meal one shared on social media makes one feel good. So we constantly search for approval from people. From others. Mostly strangers from the internet.
While technology isn’t entirely bad (socially), this has caused many of us to disconnect from our own very selves. From whom we really are, to what people want to see, hear or feel. We loose our self-esteem in the process of seeking validation from others.
The digital age has helped advance the world in many ways no doubt. But it is also filled with so many distractions. From TV commercials that prefer slender women to curvy ones, to adverts that make light-skin more appealing to dark skin (Ask Dove) . People become more inclined to pick what their eyes are seeing and which seems more appealing to them. Our reality becomes pictures daily shared on the internet rather than what we see in the mirror. We become daily distracted and these distractions lead to confusion and de-motivation.
What we see and listen to everyday from the world infiltrates our thoughts and begins to affect our actions. They influence our minds either positively or negatively. And there’s no escaping these distractions because they’re almost everywhere. As you’re driving, you’ll spot the bill-boards, while listening to the radio, you’ll hear primal information that stirs your desires. Everywhere you turn, there’s some form of media sending a message. All we can do is take a personal stand on staying connected with our true self.
Below are a few suggestions how to:
- Become more aware of your thoughts:
We often become what we daily think about. Ofcourse this is no longer news. The things we focus on becomes our reality and so it’s important to NOT ponder on things that don’t help manifest our truest selves. Different thoughts go through our minds every second whether influenced visually or by voice. Sieve them, reframe them and maintain your boundaries. Always consider your own values and personal lifestyle.
- Learn to love and embrace the true essence of who you are:
With many technological distractions and the internet, it’s easy to get drowned in self-criticism and judgements. We put ourselves down way too much. But we can develop some confidence in ourselves if we learn to embrace our uniqueness and practice self-love. The more you get to understand and KNOW you, (your strengths and weaknesses), the more you become the genuine person inside. And the more you love yourself. Love comes from your CORE being. From having accepted yourself the way you are. And it flows in every direction of your life. Be kind to yourself, stop trying to fit-in when you should stand out.
- Do the things that bring you joy:
Spending quality time with loved ones, your pets, kids, family and friends helps you stay connected with yourself. Because it helps you FEEL. Feel loved, feel the deepest, passionate connections, feel alive!
Instead of letting yourself be distracted, see the beauty of life hidden in front of you. Do the things you love and have fun doing them. Focus more on those things. Surround yourself with people, things or activities that make you feel YOU!
- Take a break, detox!
Living in a technologically-driven world makes one too connected to so much. We accumulate a lot, we multi-task, sometimes 24hours is not even enough. Hey! It’s very important to take some time away, relax, breathe, and live! It’s great to relief our minds of accumulated substances which may tend to have short or long term effects and give our minds the much needed breaks. We need to sometimes disconnect from these technologies and re-connect to ourselves. Take digital breaks. It’s necessary.
Journaling isn’t just therapeutic, it also helps one forge deeper connection with one’s self. Diary of the mad black woman, diary of the motivated, even jenifa’s diary etc. It’s all a form of journaling. journaling is a way of communicating your feelings. Your mind, your thoughts, your feelings, your perceptions come alive through journaling. We tap into our own wisdom through writing so grab your pen, your iPad, your notebook, whatever, and connect with own true self.
- Focus on what matters:
A lot is going on around us daily. It registers in our subconscious and our brain keeps processing whatever information it receives.
Staying focused on the things that matter most to us is a skill not many has mastered. It is one of the biggest challenges we face as a society.
It is necessary to eliminate things that don’t serve you. We have the choice what to spend our time on, things to listen to and watch, and what things which still serve our purpose. It is simply wise to let go of the things that don’t count. You figure them out yourself and know where your attention should go.
Staying true to yourself is what you owe yourself. Despite how busy the world is or how much information that goes through our mind everyday, we can take a time out to connect and stay true to ourselves!
I’d love to hear your thoughts or contributions, let’s discuss further in the comments.
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Until next time,