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Signs of Grandiose Narcissism and superiority complex. And how to deal with them.

The world is complex. In our everyday life, we come across various people who exhibit different forms of behaviors. Whether in the workplace, our social environment or personal relationships. This forms of behaviors affect our lives directly or indirectly.

The subject of this post is centered on grandiose narcissism and superiority complex. Because it is rather disturbing and of toxic nature.

People with grandiose- narcissism -personality disorder, have exaggerated feelings of selfimportance and superiority. They view themselves as better than others, take an egoistic and aggressive view of reality. To them,  reality is what they say it is despite facts or any other opinion.They are always right in every aspect and can even make you question your sanity.

Superiority complex on the other hand is a pattern of behavior which expresses belief that one is superior. They have an overly high opinion of themselves such that they refuse to change even when they’re being clearly unreasonable.

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You can see clearly here that both grandiose narcissism and superiority complex have one thing in common- the feeling of superiority. They exhibit egos and a tendency to belittle others in an attempt to validate their superiority.

Statistics have shown that this pattern of behaviors occur more in males than females and affect the young more than the old.

         Symptoms:

• They are controlling, blaming and intolerant of other views. They never take the blame. Rather, they shift the blame to others and refuse to be held accountable for their mistakes or bad behavior.

• They do not take criticism well and would often react with outbursts of rage or seeking revenge. Their inability to tolerate setbacks or criticism makes it difficult for these individuals to work co-operatively with others.

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• They insist others see them as they wish to be seen. To them, your opinion does not matter and they may even shame you into feeling a certain way, just to force their views on you.

• They usually expect special treatments. In their delusioned world, they are superior and for that, must be treated so. For example, they would often jump queues for the fact that they feel ‘special’ and should be attended to regardless of others who may have been there before them. The world must revolve around them.

• They are emotionally unavailable and lack empathy for others. They don’t care how their behavior affects you or what you feel/think about them.

Here’s how you may feel around them:

• Vulnerable, paranoid or afraid. Like ‘tip-toeing’ about just so you don’t do something ‘wrong’ to tick them off.

• You may feel mocked, embarrassed, criticized or humiliated publicly or privately by them. They do so to impose their perspective on you.

• You may not be able to show your true personality or utilize your full potentials around them because they will constantly knock down your every effort in order to maintain their superiority.

• It is difficult to discuss your problems with such people because it will always end in arguments and fights. And they will punish  you afterwards by physically abusing you or emotionally blackmailing you, or seizing your ‘benefits’, or giving you the silent treatment.

• They’ll seek to control you and if you refuse, you face consequences same as above. They always have to be in-charge and make you totally dependent on them so that they can force you to do as they wish.

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• You may feel manipulated to think/feel the way they want you to. You may even question your sanity. They may lie about things that happened  or did not happen to compel and cajole you to accept them as facts. And then you begin to question your memory.

• They constantly make you feel worthless. Whatever you do or say, your strengths,  means absolutely nothing.

How to deal with people exhibiting this personality disorder:

They often do not consider themselves to have a problem and they don’t care about how their behavior affect others. My opinion? They have serious issues and are difficult to deal with.

You cannot change them or their behavior. You cannot control their thoughts or actions. You’ll only be stressing yourself by wanting them to understand you from your point of view. So, lessen your stress about changing them because the simple truth is, you can’t!!!

Perhaps they’re giving you orders on how you should live and behave, ( means you’re constantly under pressure to do or say the “right” things) atleast in their eyes, it would be better. It’s like walking on eggshells- being afraid to do the next ‘wrong’ thing. (Sigh)

Please realize that their decisions and views about you shouldn’t determine how you should feel about yourself. It is sooo hard to feel good about yourself around them (Self-esteem= 0). Even when you manage to do so, it is usually short-lived.

They make you believe you are the person they’re making you out to be. YOU ARE NOT!! That is emotional abuse!

If you’re in a working relationship with this kind of people, try to keep your distance and be prepared to take verbal abuses. If you can put up with that, you’re good. Otherwise,  you will never grow in that company.  The best bet, change job.

If in a personal relationship, seek professional counseling and embark on the best project you’ll ever work on. YOU!!

#Beinspired.

Jessica Hugo.

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19 thoughts on “Signs of Grandiose Narcissism and superiority complex. And how to deal with them.”

  1. This article struck a chord with me as I do know someone who ticks all the boxes…and…yes we spend our time tiptoeing around them. This article validates how we often feel around this person.

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  2. It’s interesting to read about this as a condition / disorder. Most of the time when I come across someone like this I’d just say they are “up themselves”.

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  3. Very well written article. Very interesting indeed! I wonder what the triggers this kind of behaviour in people, perhaps it stems from childhood?

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    1. The cause of this behavior is not yet known. However, some mental health professionals, scientists, genetics and researchers believe it stems from a combination of biological factors( 50% genes inherited from parents) social interactions from early childhood ( child abuse, over-pampering,etc) and temperament.

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  4. My sister was married to a Narcissist for 7 years…this article is SPOT ON. Every single thing you said was a way he acted and made her feel. They manipulate and sabotage you at every turn to the point that you can’t win no matter how hard you try or what you do. My sister is the sweetest person and was so nice to him (even apologized when things were 100% his fault) and in the end had to leave him. The tragedy is that he continues to emotionally abuse their kids (he has 50% custody…California court system) and there’s not much she can do about it besides love the kids and build them up whenever they’re with her, and try to explain their dad’s behavior without bad-mouthing him to them.

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    1. Wow!!! I’m just short of words. it is quite pathetic this kind of people don’t think they have a problem. I hope your sister and kids continue to excel and remain strong. Thanks for reading and sharing your story. Xoxo

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  5. At some point everyone will face personalities like you’ve described above. It’s exhausting and requires serious shrewdness to deal with them.

    Several useful weapons though are: be confident, even if you don’t really feel it; learn to fake it ’till you make it real. It will go a long way. That means holding your temper and your tongue when they hit your buttons. 2) keep a log and record verifiable FACTS about their behavior – not interpretations of such. Just the facts. 3) the more you practice #1, the more the person will come after you (they will become jealous of your resiliency and self-control. HOWEVER, this will enable others will “see” the aggressor. As others start to realize who the real problem is, go back to step 2 and divulge the facts to the ones who need to know them (ie, any in authority over the abuser).

    Easier said than done, but my personal experiences prove that it’s very effective. It doesn’t mean that the person will go completely away, but you will have sent a powerful message.

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  6. Interesting post, I was just doing research on this same subject earlier. Someone with a narcissistic personality is very hard to get along with and they unfortunately do not understand why their socialization is not to popular.

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  7. I appreciate that you went into detail. So often people who have been slighted confuse a person who is simply selfish with narcissism. Obviously, anyone who reads your article will know that that’s not the case.

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  8. Thank you for this great article! I am so blessed NOT to have people like that in my life, but it really is important to know that your value and who you are is not determined by someone else.

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  9. Very interesting article. I live with someone like this, I can see past it, I can see who they truly are and that’s why I love them, but it’s hard to deal with.

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