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A new way to think about self-reliance.

From childhood to early adulthood, it’s been the duty of our parents, guardians, aunts/uncles, or elder siblings to take care of us. They wake us up to have our bath, perhaps feed and prepare us for school and also take care of our every essential need. They take the major decisions in our lives because we’re minors and incapable of making those decisions ourselves, or our welfare is totally dependent on them.

However, at some point in life, your happiness and sustainability will largely depend on you. Everyone isn’t always going to be there to make decisions for you or do those tasks. If we can learn to take control of our own life, then we can typically survive and function better in the society. It is really important to stay connected to family & friends or significant others, but it feels confident that you can do certain things on your own.

Absolute self-dependence is relatively impossible since man lives in a complex society where cooperation and mutual benefit is the rule but there’s definitely a big space for self-reliance. The habit of thinking others will always do things for you is harmful as it breeds disappointments, hopelessness  and helplessness  especially in critical moments of life. And in that process, we loose our selfconfidence and energy and limit ourselves to the help we can get from others.

img_3319Selfreliance teaches fortitude, perseverance, Strength, brevity and Experience needed to survive and succeed in life. Part of being grown is having a selfreliant mentality. You assume responsibility, you no longer wait to be bathed, fed and prepared for the day, you perhaps rely on your alarm clock and use your calendar for schedules and appointments. You get things done and make your decisions yourself, accepting the consequences( good or bad) without blaming anyone. Being responsible for yourself can be tedious, frustrating and time-consuming but it is totally satisfying and empowering.

To make good decisions, we need to be well informed. Research and learn, ask questions where necessary ( but you need to decide yourself). Knowledge is power! No wonder employers send their staff for trainings and seminars in order to improve their capacity for a job. Being aware of your responsibilities help you better take care of them. By being properly informed, you can manage your feelings and emotions better, and know what and how to do your tasks.

Selfreliance means one has a sense of direction. It means you have your goals clearly in mind and that you know where you’re going. That you don’t do things merely because others think you should nor totally depend on others to validate your decisions. You can seek advice or counsel in relation to your goals but you’re going all out with your blueprint to achieve them.

While you’re younger, ( perhaps helpless), you let life happen to you. But with a grown and self -reliant mentality, you know you don’t live your life to chance. You understand that you have to be proactive in solving your problems. Even in a relationship, having a part in both daily and long-term decisions can give you a better control of your life. Where two people have a shared responsibility, it is only fair that the individuals involved meet their individual responsibilities fairly.

We learn that by having courage and convictions, we can strive in life and utilize our principles to forge ahead perhaps with God on our side.

Even though selfreliance can build one’s confidence and give you peace, never be afraid to ask for help especially in life-threatening situations.

Selfreliance will make you appreciate others more and become more selfaware (Man, know thyself! ~ Socrates) while also building a resilient mind.

Have you other ways to think about self-reliance? Have you learnt a thing or two by this post? Please contribute and share with others.

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Jessica Hugo

 

 

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10 thoughts on “A new way to think about self-reliance.”

  1. self-reliance definitely reduces your expectations and helps you to see that those around you do not owe you anything. It also removes self-entitlement where you walk around demanding support from those who are not willing to give their support and appreciate those who do so willingly. Great post well done! ❤

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    1. Couldn’t agree less S-Badu, it definitely will reduce your expectations from others and save you from hurts and disappointments and then you learn to appreciate others more and find strength &a peace within yourself. Thanks a lot for reading and contributing..

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  2. Self reliance can slow ur pace but at the end u will be much more fulfilled n u end up appreciating the wait. Nice write up! Wonderful!

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    1. Thanks for your time Hugo, it’s true self-reliance isn’t all fun, but it gives you better control of your life. Your choices, your values, your goals, your vision, your LIFE! And it teaches one the tenacity, strength & experience needed for success. It isn’t totally wrong to ask for help where necessary but it is best to bear in mind that your happiness depends on you.
      I appreciate your comment. 😚

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