How to Improve your self-esteem.

Selfesteem is the evaluation of your own worth. The thoughts, feelings, opinions you have about yourself. It is usually shaped by our relationships and experiences. When you have a healthy self-esteem, it means you’re confident in your own worth and abilities. However, some situations can make one develop a low self-esteem. Heartbreak, physical looks, not maximizing your full potentials, being bullied, loss of job, etc.

These can lead to self-worthlessness, depression or anxiety and in some cases, victims live in fear or become suicidal. You begin to feel you’re never good enough, not worth it and can never reach success.

You’re not alone on this, millions of other people have felt this way and still do, the difference is that, some of them worked on their belief system and changed their perceptions for good. It starts from the inside, your emotional and mental well-being.


If you’re willing to improve on your selfesteem, here are a few ways how;

•  Don’t accept society/other people’s standards: Accept who you are, dont let other people’s opinion about you form your evaluation about yourself. Only you knows you and understand yourself better than anyone.  Societal standard of success may not comply with your own standard and definition so define for yourself, what success means to you. If you ever failed, there’s no need to sit there and wail, dust yourself up and try again. It doesn’t matter how many times, so long as you learn the lessons and move along.

imageIdentify areas of your strengths: things you’re good at and do so well in, and do those things. Everyone has their own strengths and where they excel. Recognize yours and start doing it. No matter how small, little steps in the right direction, people will begin to appreciate you and thus you begin to feel pleased with yourself. When you demonstrate your ability, you feel proud and satisfied and this nourishes your emotions.

Sometimes, all you need is to accept change!: People may change their attitude towards you, hurt or disappoint you, etc. Don’t beat yourself dear, you may be wondering what’s wrong with you. Strive to be a better person instead. Love yourself as much as you can. There are things you can change and there are things you simply can’t. Accept that and focus on the ones you can, which is you. Explore other opportunities, try new things, embrace change.

imageStop blaming yourself unfairly and feeling hopeless: No matter what at this point, negative self-talk isn’t going to help. The world hasn’t shut down yet, it means you’re still living and so there’s still hope. You probably had a target you couldn’t reach at the end, or maybe you feel you should be at a certain point of your life at the moment and you’re not there yet, whatever it is, don’t blame yourself unfairly nor loose hope. Look at the mirror and accept your flaws. You may not be perfect but you’re sure far from fatal. No be your own worse pass. You may have an imperfect body but how about your other accomplishments?

Seek external help: Let trusted persons know how you feel if it becomes too overwhelming and difficult to cope with. Let it all out, perhaps seek a professional help even. When your thoughts become depressing or suicidal, please don’t stay alone, seek help! Connect with people who love you and have fun. Try not to be alone all the time.

Take care of yourself: I know… It maybe difficult to take care of your physical health when your self-esteem is low. But that’s when you need it most. If you don’t take care of yourself, who will? It is important for your mental well being as well. Reduce the pressure you put on yourself, get adequate sleep, exercise frequently, dress up and look good.

Stop unhealthy comparisons and competitions: You know what, stay on your own lane and strive to always be better than who you were. Comparing and competing unhealthily with others won’t make you any better nor help your emotions. Be genuinely happy for others and celebrate yourself too. Always remember that you are Unique and no one has your exact qualities.

Also, realistic self-affirmations may help. Eg I can. If you begin to believe in yourself and your abilities, then you can become more confident in yourself and go all out to achieve your goals.

#MondayMotivation… Be all you can be.

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Until next time,




7 thoughts on “How to Improve your self-esteem.”

  1. Very very good write ups… I love motivational tips for any topic. Self esteem is something I have see that can either bring you down or take you up the ladder…

    Sometimes when I see some ladies in relationships, I just pity them because they try to put everything they have into it to make it work, and in the course of this, they reduce their selves so much that self esteem is crushed to the ground, and the guy would be feeling great.

    I wish many will read this.


  2. You’re right Brenda, and this isn’t healthy. You really can’t force yourself into the life of a person who doesn’t want you cos no matter what you do, he/she isn’t gonna see the value and you’ll end up miserable. Don’t try to change what you cannot. Take care of yourself first. Thanks a lot for reading and you’re free to share dear. 😘


    1. Comparison is easier said than done really but it’s something one has to stop to help our emotions. One should learn to accept one’s self and improve where needed. For me, I’ve learnt to take care of myself better. There’s a correlationship between your physical health & your mental well being. You just feel good when you look good and this automatically boosts your confidence.
      Thanks a lot Berry for your contribution 😘😘. You’re amazing


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