Self–esteem is the evaluation of your own worth. The thoughts, feelings, opinions you have about yourself. It is usually shaped by our relationships and experiences. When you have a healthy self-esteem, it means you’re confident in your own worth and abilities. However, some situations can make one develop a low self-esteem. Heartbreak, physical looks, not maximizing your full potentials, being bullied, loss of job, etc.
These can lead to self-worthlessness, depression or anxiety and in some cases, victims live in fear or become suicidal. You begin to feel you’re never good enough, not worth it and can never reach success.
You’re not alone on this, millions of other people have felt this way and still do, the difference is that, some of them worked on their belief system and changed their perceptions for good. It starts from the inside, your emotional and mental well-being.
If you’re willing to improve on your self–esteem, here are a few ways how;
• Don’t accept society/other people’s standards: Accept who you are, dont let other people’s opinion about you form your evaluation about yourself. Only you knows you and understand yourself better than anyone. Societal standard of success may not comply with your own standard and definition so define for yourself, what success means to you. If you ever failed, there’s no need to sit there and wail, dust yourself up and try again. It doesn’t matter how many times, so long as you learn the lessons and move along.
• Identify areas of your strengths: things you’re good at and do so well in, and do those things. Everyone has their own strengths and where they excel. Recognize yours and start doing it. No matter how small, little steps in the right direction, people will begin to appreciate you and thus you begin to feel pleased with yourself. When you demonstrate your ability, you feel proud and satisfied and this nourishes your emotions.
• Sometimes, all you need is to accept change!: People may change their attitude towards you, hurt or disappoint you, etc. Don’t beat yourself dear, you may be wondering what’s wrong with you. Strive to be a better person instead. Love yourself as much as you can. There are things you can change and there are things you simply can’t. Accept that and focus on the ones you can, which is you. Explore other opportunities, try new things, embrace change.
• Stop blaming yourself unfairly and feeling hopeless: No matter what at this point, negative self-talk isn’t going to help. The world hasn’t shut down yet, it means you’re still living and so there’s still hope. You probably had a target you couldn’t reach at the end, or maybe you feel you should be at a certain point of your life at the moment and you’re not there yet, whatever it is, don’t blame yourself unfairly nor loose hope. Look at the mirror and accept your flaws. You may not be perfect but you’re sure far from fatal. No be your own worse pass. You may have an imperfect body but how about your other accomplishments?
• Seek external help: Let trusted persons know how you feel if it becomes too overwhelming and difficult to cope with. Let it all out, perhaps seek a professional help even. When your thoughts become depressing or suicidal, please don’t stay alone, seek help! Connect with people who love you and have fun. Try not to be alone all the time.
• Take care of yourself: I know… It maybe difficult to take care of your physical health when your self-esteem is low. But that’s when you need it most. If you don’t take care of yourself, who will? It is important for your mental well being as well. Reduce the pressure you put on yourself, get adequate sleep, exercise frequently, dress up and look good.
• Stop unhealthy comparisons and competitions: You know what, stay on your own lane and strive to always be better than who you were. Comparing and competing unhealthily with others won’t make you any better nor help your emotions. Be genuinely happy for others and celebrate yourself too. Always remember that you are Unique and no one has your exact qualities.
Also, realistic self-affirmations may help. Eg I can. If you begin to believe in yourself and your abilities, then you can become more confident in yourself and go all out to achieve your goals.
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